The Proverbs 21 Wife

Wives Love Your Husbands

Proverbs 21:9 – Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife (NIV).

I stumbled on that verse of Proverbs the other day, and I just sat and kind of let that picture settle in my mind for a minute. I pictured a man with a tattered blanket huddling against cold wind, rain and snow and still finding relief that he was not in the same warm house with his awful wife.

Then after I got that funny picture out of my head, I wondered if there were ever times my own husband would rather face the elements on the roof than share a house with me?

My husband is steady as a rock. He is devastatingly handsome, funny, loyal, kind, works super hard for his family, he helps with chores, and he is always quick with a smile and to tell me how beautiful I am. I am very blessed by this man.

On the other hand, I’m not so steady. My moods can fluctuate like the worlds largest roller coaster and many times when he is being a wonderful husband, I’m not in the mood for even that.

There has been many days he gets short answers, the classic eye-roll, a melt-down (or two), a definite rant, and even pulling away when he tries to be affectionate. That kind of sounds like the quarrelsome wife mentioned in Proverbs. That’s how I picture that woman!

Many times the demands of everyday life leaves us feeling drained and stressed out. Sadly, we can easily take that out on our loveable husbands.

I know not all husbands are loveable all the time. But, the Bible is clear that we are to love others. Like my Pastor always says,
“God isn’t concerned with how people treat you, He is concerned with how you treat other people!” Husbands included!

I would imagine God isn’t very pleased with me when I am that quarrelsome wife in Proverbs. Even though my husband and I rarely “fight”, my silence and distance can speak louder than my yelling and screaming.

So, I challege you today to speak a kind word or give your hubby an extra hug today and thank him for all he does. Our husbands need our affection and affirmation. Maybe it might lift our spirits at the same time!

This Bible journaling entry was inspired by a You Tube process video by Illustrated Faith

Supplies Used

Shanna’s Favorites Watercolor Set

Hey Sugar Sugar Alphabet Stickers

His Love Stickers

White Gesso


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  1. Oh, Kim….. thank you so much for the gentle reminder!! I am so blessed with a great guy-I need to treat him well each and every day!

  2. What a great reminder! I am so thankful for the love and support from my husband for the past 35 years. I cannot imagine life without him. I hope I’m not a hard wife to live with…that’s not the proverbs woman I want to be!!!

  3. I think you and your husband are both blessed to have each other. We may not always be perfect, but we begin with the awareness of our shortcomings in all humility. Day after day, we may rise and fall, but with patient perseverance, love grows and relationships become stronger and more beautiful in time.